I have had such a hard time in understanding how to deal with the loss of losing people in a breakup. I'm not talking about the stars of the show, I am talking about the extra's, the people that are on the outskirts of the relationship. Hard as I try, It doesn't seem to be in my DNA to be able to say..."well they aren't a part of my life anymore, so I don't care about them" and in some ways I think that is a good thing. Honestly, I really don't want to have that talent. The talent I am searching for is the ability to understand that I cannot control what others do and when they let go of me, I must let go also, even if I didn't do anything to deserve it. Certain circumstances of last week forced me to face this exact situation. Which I think I did with grace and kindness. Moral of this story: You don't have to do the "letting go", but once someone does - respect the decision and move on. Focus on the people in your life that you know without a doubt they would never leave your side whether you were going through the very best or the very worst of times of your life.
