Be Worthy, Willing, and Patient

Recipe for a Miracle

Be Worthy

Be Kind

Be Beautiful

Be Patient

Be Loving

Be Forgiving

Be Willing

If you want joy and beauty in your life, be a beautiful person...quietly

I really like this quote.  It again, reminds me of people in my life that so blatantly have to show how great they are to the world, they have to prove their worth.  I understand why, their past history has completely dis-proven their worth.  Do you know someone, or are you someone who has created "a not so good image" and will go to great lengths so that others will see them in a "better light".

Moral of the Story, if you feel like you need to over do it and ask the world "Hey world, Look at me do this - I'm great"!  Then your most likely did something you want the world to forget.  Instead of trying to get the world to believe another story, try the harder but permanent way: apologize, be humble, face your weaknesses, and then vow to change.

Real, good, honest people do not need to create ways to obtain others approval, they already deserve it and simply automatically get it.

For my friend, and a reminder for myself

The snake and the Boy:

A boy who climbed a high mountain. It was cold up there. At his feet was a snake, a rattlesnake. The snake was cold and pleaded with the young man to pick it up and take it down where it was warmer.

The boy listened to the enticings of the snake. He gave in. He gathered it up into his arms and covered it with his shirt. He carried it down the mountain to where it was warm. He then caring and gently put it on the grass. When the snake was warm it raised its head and struck the boy with its poisonous fangs.

The boy was hurt and confused at the snake for striking him as an answer to his kindness.

The snake replied, "You knew what I was when you picked me up"

It is a good person who cares to try and help the hurt and give warmth and love to someone who clearly needs it.  However, once they have proven themselves to be "a rattlesnake" then believe their own actions and protect yourself and your loved ones against those with poisonous fangs.  The snakes of this world are only interested in self preservation and self indulgence and their only goal is to entice & seduce with charmed easy talk, then injure and possibly destroy them.

Moral of the Story:  It isn't a bad thing to be the person who loved someone and tried to help someone become a person of character.  It also isn't your fault nor your responsibility when they choose to not change.  Believe a person's actions; Good or Bad.  Actions are true.  A person's words are only true, when matched with the actions.

Stay Calm Mom

Staying calm can sometimes be so difficult!  It seems like when dealing with certain people in my life my immediate response is always defend defend defend!  Defend what?  My honor? Now hold on, This isn't "A Few Good Men", although I wouldn't mind getting to see Tom Cruise in that suit again.  

But seriously,   for the past month I have been making a conscious effort to remain calm when dealing with those difficult people in my life.  Just by making this a conscious effort I have seen that every situation has been SO much easier not only to handle, but to get over and thus easier to just move on.  When I remember to tell myself, stay calm, take a deep breath and really think about this situation before you react...I start to think about (this part is really important) what I want to say compared to what I need to say, if anything needs to be said at all and then react or do not react accordingly.  Huh,  It really works!.

Moral of the story: All situations are easier to handle when you breath as you normally do, and stay calm.  If you are looking for a little ease in your life, then look for more calmness inside of you.  Start with breathing, a little oxygen goes a long long way.

Be Prepared, Remember to Pray and then have Patience

Today I accomplished a goal I have been trying to get done for almost a year.  The proposal has been made, the documents have all been accumulated, reference checks, reference letters, proofs, its all done, a years worth of collecting information  and now the papers have been signed and are on their way.  I have done almost a year of preparation and now finally the time has come.  Today I walked out of the office and raised my hands in the air and said I have done everything that I know to prepare for this. God, its all yours".  A huge weight has been is lifted.  I am hopeful and positive that we will have a great outcome!  Moral of the Story: Do what you can, diligently prepare and work towards your goal and then trust in God to do the rest.  Another inspired Joyce Meyers moment.

Smile, Naturally!

I heard two quotes today that I loved!

#1 "Your happiness is based on what is happening around you.  Your Joy is based on what you believe."

For the first time in a long time I can say that my faith in God is strong and I truly believe that if I keep following the path that is before me then my little guy and I will end up exactly where we are suppose to be.

But in order to see that path I need to keep my worries out of the equation and be more........  Be more patient, be more loving, more joyous.  It is a simple little reminder that if you look at all the negative, then the negative surrounds you.  But if you look at all the positive in your life, you are automatically surrounded with all the great, wonderful, positive things around you.  Moral of the story: Remember YOUR GREATEST POWER IS POSITIVITY!


2nd Quote: This struck a nerve in me this morning, I thought to myself, I can do everything on there except for line 5.  "I am going to dig up Positive things from the Past."  There are many people and many things associated with my past that I wish to forget, so that one was a hard one for me. But there are many people in my past that I wish to always remember, (young and old) that have helped me become the mom that I am today.

The rest is easy because it is natural for me to be happy, I am a happy person, I love to find the really thin silver linings in all situations.  I really love to smile, I love my little boys smile and we just love love love to laugh.

Quit Worrying, Plan instead and then go to sleep

I use to say "I can't help it, I am a worrier, that is what I do"  But I have realized that worrying is such a complete waste of time.  I hear many people say  that I  worry about things that will probably never happen.  I wish that was my life, but my circumstances are becoming very predictable and guessing what is going to happen is becoming easier.  So instead of worrying about a problem that is most likely coming, I have decided to start creating a Plan A and a Plan B.  That way I am two steps ahead of the game.  If the situation never happens then I know how to proceed and if the situation does happen, I am calm and know exactly the best way to handle it.  So I guess some would say, well...your still worrying, I don't think so.  I am preparing. Moral of the Story: If something is really scary, or if you really feel like a situation is imminent, then create a Plan A (if it doesn't happen) and a Plan B (if it does happen) and then go to sleep knowing either way, Your prepared.

What matters most to you?

One of my members came in today to talk to me about resigning his Membership because his wife of 62 years had just passed away and he couldn't bear coming to the club without her.  With tears in his eyes, and swelling in mine, we talked about his wife, how great she was, everything she did for him, all the small things she did that meant the most and how he simply just couldn't live without her.  I gave him a hug, told him I would take care of resigning his Membership and wished him the very best.

Later I saw this post, posted by a friend on facebook.  I asked myself, what matters most to me?  My little boy matters most to me, my family matters most to me, my closest friends matter the most to me.  Hank talks of compassionate listening a lot when he gives seminars on his Doctorate thesis "Trust". Moral of the story, I have always thought of myself as a good listener, and I am.  However, today, I really learned what Compassionate listening is all about and what a person can learn just by really compassionately listening.

Boldly Go

Have you ever wondered how strong you really are.  Just how much can you take before someone is allowed to beat you down and leave you broken?  I found out that I am actually becoming very strong.  My current situation is teaching me an immense about of courage, patience and calmness.  If anything is coming out of all this. I am becoming  mentally stronger, which just makes me a better mother.  Moral to this story:  Try to look at your situation as an outsider would.  You will see how you are acting and reacting to situations.  Notice if your growing stronger or weaker and then make the change accordingly.

Lighten your load and let go

I have had such a hard time in understanding how to deal with the loss of losing people in a breakup.  I'm not talking about the stars of the show, I am talking about the extra's, the people that are on the outskirts of the relationship.  Hard as I try, It doesn't seem to be in my DNA to be able to say..."well they aren't a part of my life anymore, so I don't care about them" and in some ways I think that is a good thing.  Honestly, I really don't want to have that talent.  The talent I am searching for is the ability to understand that I cannot control what others do and when they let go of me, I must let go also, even if I didn't do anything to deserve it. Certain circumstances of last week forced  me to face this exact situation.  Which I think I did with grace and kindness.  Moral of this story: You don't have to do the "letting go", but once someone does - respect the decision and move on.

Focus on the people in your life that you know without a doubt they would never leave your side whether you were going through the very best or the very worst of times of your life.  

Cheers to being Cheerful

There is so much negativity around in my life, it is very easy to find yourself wallowing in misery.  So what do I do when I am being compounded by miserable people who feel the need to share their miserable attitudes and miserable situations?  I call the people in my life that bring out the best in me, the people who give me a quick "Attitude Adjustment". I am lucky, I have what I call "Attitude Adjustment Angels" My own little AAA group!  One of my most favorite girl friends, Christy, has the most positive attitude of any woman I have met, and my younger brother Hank, well, he is always a fun person to talk to when misery starts creeping into my life....he puts thats misery into perspective, reminds me of the source, makes me laugh again and again.  Laughter trumps misery all the time.

Moral of the Story....never wallow in your own or someone else's misery and when it starts creeping into your life, surround yourself with people who live Cheerfully, after all they are much nicer to talk to!

Keep working towards complete success

Where are you when it comes to these six essential qualities?
Sincerity: I am sincere in all that I do now, but I wasn't in the past and I am trying to make up for that now.
Personal Integrity:  I have regained all my personal integrity and I am extremely proud of it.
Humility: A humble person is a confident beautiful person.  I continue to work on that every day.
Courtesy: I am happy to say I always try to be courteous, even to those that don't particularly deserve it. Wisdom: I do have much more to learn every day in many areas and I am excited to keep learning.
Charity: I really don't have much, however, I have received more charity than I could ever dream, so it is so more important to me that I Pay It Forward.

Moral to the story: Work towards these six qualities and you will be successful in all areas of your life.
Always keeping in mind, there is a thin line between confidence and arrogance.  It's called humility. Remember that confidences smiles and arrogance smirks.  Just remembering that sentence will help you see real character of a person.

Changes on the Horizon

 I have been looking back lately on all the changes I have gone through over the past year.  Some of the changes I had control over and some I did not, but all the changes turned out to be the best thing that ever happened to me.

Sometimes while I am waiting on that  "big" change to happen I think I lose sight of all the "little" changes that have happened to me, by choice or by circumstance.  Either way all of those little changes will ultimately bring us to our ultimate goal.

Moral of the story; Try to make one change every day, keeping in mind that the smallest tiny change may result in the biggest change of your life.

This bottom quote, just made me laugh.  Next time I start to feel "stuck", I will remember, I am not a tree.